When is the last time someone told you you matter? You do.
As my husband and I drove down the highway, headed south on our adults-only adventure, I got to asking him about the things he values and what he has to offer this world and it stunned me to hear he didn’t feel he brought value. My heart physically hurt and I started to cry. He held my hand as I spoke through the tears.
I cried because I know he has so much to offer this world and Creator gives each of us, including him, purpose when we’re born. He brings value to everyone around him but I also realize he’s not alone in those thoughts. For so many years, I thought that about myself, too. I felt I wasn’t destined for much more than where I was in those dark times.
Growing up on the rez with alcoholism everywhere we looked, experiencing traumatic ordeals regularly and enduring grief and loss endlessly, it is hard to see value, hope, and light at the end of the tunnel. It is hard to see our worth or purpose. It is there, though. No matter the hell we’ve been through, we all have a purpose here on earth, to teach, learn, grow, heal, help and love others.
No matter the hell we’ve been through, we all have a purpose here on earth, to teach, learn, grow, heal, help and love others.
I talked to my husband through tears about post traumatic stress disorder and the symptoms around that and how often we are reminded physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually of the damage caused to us by all the traumas in our lives. Moreover, that we have choices to let those experiences control and dictate our lives or not. I told him how much he has to offer this world, his kids, family and community. I told him how proud he should be of all that he’s overcome. He is of great value to me and our kids.
To summarize it all, I want you to know how much you matter. You, you and you, too. We all bring great value to this world just by our presence. I hope you feel that deep in your soul. No matter your circumstances, you matter, and don’t you dare let anyone tell you different. The world is a better place with you in it.
Thankfully we made it safely to our destination and get to spend some quality time learning and growing with one another over the next few days. Good night.