I have to say thank you. Thank you to my husband, Greg, for all the patience, unconditional love and support he’s provided me.
More and more we see alcohol (and drugs) affecting people we love and it puts in to perspective the life we have now, and the life we could still be living. We’ve come along way. My husband celebrated 10 years of sobriety this year and I couldn’t be more thankful. We’ve come a long way but it’s not been without obstacles. I think the thing that’s worked for us is that we’ve always been open and honest (and real) with our kids. When shit hit the fan, we’ve dealt with it as a family. We sat down and talked through tears and understanding to get to a resolution so they understood that talking about big issues is necessary to work it out and heal.
So why fortunately fortunate? I say that because we got out of what was holding us back. ALCOHOL. DRUGS. Thinking we were having a good time when in reality, it was nothing but a bad time. We’d live pay cheque to pay cheque, never had money, fought about anything and everything, and most sadly, our kids were in the middle of it. Our addictions always came first. So many people, us included, put the addiction ahead of our kids. Our kids! The most important people in our lives! Fortunately we stopped. That does not go without saying they’ve been impacted by our choices still to this day. It’s always a work in progress to remind them that they’ve always mattered we just didn’t know how to parent until we were able to see straight and heal. Fortunately fortunate.
I’m grateful every day my kids have sober parents. I’m grateful every day I can make choices about my life with a clear conscience. All I can do is pray they and the ones we love learn from their mistakes and realize that we’re not made to drink alcohol socially. Too much generational trauma has taken that away from us. Nothing good comes from drinking. I know this from experience and that sucks but again, fortunately I can speak out about our experiences so maybe it’ll help others. Fortunately fortunate. See you’re worth before it’s too late.